Do you feel like you’ve spent the last 20 years in a coma?
You know, that dream-like state that runs on a loop; marriage, babies, cooking, cleaning, catering to their every whim. Maybe a career that didn’t progress as expected. And what a good girl. You didn’t stray. You followed every direction. But now? Emptiness. Discontent. Unfulfillment.
So you start to make changes, hopefully. Or maybe you’re a chicken and know something needs to change but you don’t know what. Good thing you found us!
We have yet to meet a woman that hasn’t gone through a tremendous transformation in her MidLife.
When it starts to happen, you think you’re crazy.
For generations, this period of dramatic metamorphosis has been labeled a crisis by men, medicine, polite society, whomever. Because your growth scares the shit out of them.
You are not in crisis. You are awakening. Good morning, Sunshine!
As you shift, you realize you are not the same person you used to be. Good grief, how boring would that be? The things you used to tolerate have become intolerable. When you once remained quiet, you are now speaking your truth. Where you once battled and argued, you are now choosing to remain silent. You are beginning to understand the value of your voice and there are some situations that no longer deserve your time, energy and focus.
You also find a stirring that needs to be fed. Your brain craves new learning, your body craves a higher and better use.
Let’s face it; we are now entering a precarious time of “use it or lose it”.
You need to read, start that business, get in the best shape of your life and, pardon our french, fuck. You need to be nurtured and desired. If the people around you in the form of friends, spouse or family aren’t returning the favor of all your care-taking, demand it from them.
Don’t be afraid to ask.
The power you will feel from asking for what you want is freeing. More often than not, your people will deliver. If they don’t or won’t, that is telling too. There may need to be a pruning of sorts. We’re not suggesting you dump your spouse of 25 years because he won’t support your new hobby. But we implore you to not back down. Ask the tough questions: Why aren’t you on board? Because you can’t or won’t? Can we come to a compromise?
If you are stymied time and again, maybe then is the time to get into some deep and dirty counseling. You are not obligated to spend the rest of your life unhappy.
In fact, you are obliged to find your happiness and live this life gifted to you to its fullest!
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Welcome to the best time of your life. We’re honored to be part of your ride.
xo, Your Sages